Making Your Novus Ordo Wedding More Traditional
For couples who will have a Novus Ordo wedding but want to make the ceremonies as traditional as possible, here are several suggestions.
Note: These are suggestions. The final decision may rest with the priest celebrating the Mass, and parish staff supporting weddings, such as the wedding coordinator and the choir director.
You may be given a list or a booklet of reading options for the wedding Mass. The following readings options are the same as the votive Mass Missa pro sponso et sponsa:
Responsorial Psalm (Novus Ordo) / Tract (Traditional Latin Mass): Psalm 127:4-6 (RSV-CE 128)
Behold thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the Lord. May the Lord bless thee out of Sion; and mayest thou see the good things of Jerusalem all the days of thy life. And mayest thou see thy children’s children: peace upon Israel.
Second Readings (NO) / Epistle (TLM): Ephesians 5:25-32
Note: In the NO reading option, the first three lines starting, “Wives, be submissive to your husbands,” are omitted.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is a profound one, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church; however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Alleluia verse (NO) / Greater Alleluia verse (TLM): Psalm 133:3 (RSV-CE 134:3)
May the Lord out of Sion bless you: who hath made heaven and earth. Alleluia.
Gospel: Matthew 19:3-6
At that time: The Pharisees came to Jesus, tempting Him and saying; It is lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? Who answering said to them, Have ye not read, that He who made man from the beginning, made them male and female? and He said, For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they two shall be in one flesh. Therefore, now they are not two but one flesh. What, therefore, God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.
The Preface is a prayer said by the priest before the Sanctus. One of the Preface options for both the NO and the TLM is the Nuptial Preface ( Praefatio de Nuptiis), an ancient prayer found in the Gelasian Sacramentary.
Music is a tricky category. The rubrics for the NO are extremely flexible regarding music. However, some musicians have found that for a Novus Ordo Mass, wholesale replacing hymns with Latin chanted propers may be artistically jarring.
That said, there are plenty of ways to make your Mass music more traditional.
- Organ is the ideal instrument for the Mass.
- Choose classic, simple hymns, such as Adoro Te Devote.
- If you do choose chant, unaccompanied voices are the most dignified.
- If there is a Mass text from the Missa pro sponso that you were not able to use, see if you can incorporate a sung version (chant, polyphony, or other) of the Mass text elsewhere. The best places for extra music are during the Offertory, and as a prelude.
Outside the Mass
All of the above categories have to do with the wedding Mass itself. There are some extra-liturgical things you can do too!
Follow the parish’s guidelines on attire for the day regarding modesty. In addition, consider checking traditional etiquette that factors in your wedding date and time of day. Tuxedos, for example, technically should only be worn for evening events. Winter events usually call for jewel tones.
For men and women: https://emilypost.com/advice/image-and-attire
There are some (perhaps no longer applicable) – i.e., where one can place flowers in the church, and whether the flowers should be cut or alive. Consult with your priest or wedding coordinator.
Flowers have rich histories, and many flowers have connections to Mary and the saints. Consider your wedding colors, the colors in the church, budget, season, and your cultural backgrounds and spiritual devotions.
Read more: https://www.latinmasswedding.com/flowers/
The Church has always been quite accommodating of local customs in weddings, as long as they do not interfere with the liturgical ceremonies. If you don’t know of any wedding customs, consider asking your family or researching your place of origin.
Some popular traditional customs include:
- Leaving flowers to Mary after Communion
- the Lasso or Lazo
- the Arras
- Velatio Nuptialis (this is cheating; it is not popular. But it should be.)
- Crowning (not common in the Roman Rite, but common in many Eastern Rites)